Beloved and I are blessed to want the same thing here. 2 to 3 kids would be great, thanks.
There seem to be a lot of couples who wear a level of denial about this issue, and it's sad. I have no agenda; I understand completely why some people don't ever want them, and why others are clucky as. But the thing is, it is such a deal-breaker of an issue, and so many couples push it under the faux-Persian rug.
We have some friends, well, they're more hers than mine after the woman told me she earned more money than me in an attempt to win an argument, but friends nonetheless. He's a great guy, perhaps a bit borderline too-cool and chilled. She's manic, but genuine. They have a great rapport, they're a very good couple in most respects.
But she's deeply maternal, it comes out in so many things she says, while he states baldly that he never wants to have kids. Never. No interest at all.
You can't ignore an issue like this. Unless one of them genuinely changes their mind, they will do one of three things:
bad- go on in denial until it comes to a head in a few years, then break up in a big sad mess;
worse- she'll give in, and resent him deeply for the rest of her life;
maybe good, but likely worst of all- have a kid against his wishes, and he will either suddenly grow to love the child, as she'll be hoping, or resent it and be a bad father or even leave.
Unless one of them genuinely changes their mind.
So they need to talk now, and see whether this can be resolved, explore with each other and individually the extent of their feelings about this.
I think it's toughest for the woman in these situations. Until technology moves a fair bit further forward, a woman who wants kids desperately and who suddenly confronts reality at 35 and breaks up from her life-love is in a terrible place.
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